The best way to create intrigue the first few minutes of approaching her is to think about something that doesn’t come off as a desperate move to qualify yourself. You can do this by avoiding to talk about yourself. You can even be honest about your move. Something like, ‘I saw you from the other corner of the room, and I thought I should make a move.’
After that, regardless of what her respond is, ask her some random leading questions that you can thereafter direct to an engaging conversation. Example, tell me something ’bout yourself. Something I don’t already know.’
After she responds, reward her with a genuine compliment and encourage the behavior.
Try to maintain your frame all through. A compliment like, ‘that sounds cool.’ Or ‘you look like someone I can really hang out with.’ Then lean towards her to show some interest.
The trick is to get her to talk more as you do a lot of attentive listening. Interjecting the conversation from time to time to direct it where you want it to go.
Numerous opportunities will arise where she’ll inevitably find herself opening up and trying to qualify herself.
Make yourself a mystery
There should be a balance between the amount of information she gives and the amount she gets from you. Preferably, 2/3 hers and 1/3 yours.
This is NOT something hard to achieve, as chicks love taking about themselves, their experiences and achievements. Just make it appear like hers are really special. At some point she’ll notice she’s given out too much info than you’ve shared and she’ll insist on wanting to know a little more about you.
For instance, she might ask you about what you do. Don’t rash into spilling the details, instead try deflecting the question by answering her with something like ‘lots of stuff.’ But in a fun way. Or ‘I sell drugs.’ Or simply ‘nothing’ and be steel, more so if you have something to show your life ain’t that badly off.
She’ll want to know more about you. Plus, know why you aren’t willing to reveal much about yourself. That’s intrigue at its core.
She’ll feel like there’s something you’re hiding and her mission will be to try and dig it out. Women love challenges. You’d have given her one, thus reversing the role and making her do the chasing much to your benefit.
Know Your Exit
Things don’t have to go according to plan. There’s a fair chance she may end up falling out of the script. If you’re experienced enough, you’ll know how to calibrate and keep her drawn. Otherwise you have to know when to walk away. Whatever you do, avoid latching.
And even when things seem to be working out, you have to find a way to walk away at least once and come back later. This should particularly be the case if you’re looking for a way to elude one of her questions you suspect answering may betray your mystery antic.
To boot, walking away also makes you appear less needy besides boosting your market value. She’ll keep on wondering whether she’s interesting enough to make you return, and in the process placing you way ahead of the giant competition you have.
There’s fair chance things could take a very tricky turn. Some girls just don’t give in that easily. Instead of accepting the reversed roles, they’ll be fighting to get you into qualifying yourself instead, so they can lump you together with the long list of other guys they have in their filters. That’s what we call shit tests. Whatever you do, find a way to by-pass each one of them.
She might ask you to buy her a drink, or even push the tests even further to your balls. Something like ‘you look shy,’ ‘are you nervous.’ Answer ‘NO’ and you’d have screwed the pooch really hard.
Read the next article to find out about these shit tests and how to walk around them and maintain your frame.